Grace Retirement

If you are struggling in your relationships it is best to do some self-awareness. This can help you figure out why you are having the trouble that you are having. There is a lot to having a good relationship with someone and part of that is being the right person. Through self-awareness, you can become that right person for someone else.

The first thing you should do is to start to journal. Journaling can help you figure out who you are and what you are doing with your life. You can learn a lot about yourself by doing so. Try to journal every day and then look back over the things you have written to have a better understanding of yourself.

You should also make notes on your qualities. Write down your good ones as well as your bad ones. Think about what you can offer someone else. Then think about what you need to work on to better yourself.

After you do that you should think about your past relationships. Try to figure out what went wrong and why they fell apart. If you are unsure and willing to talk to your ex-partner, you should do that to learn more about what happened.

Once you have done all of that you should take all the information you have about yourself and try to find out what you can do to better yourself before you start another relationship. It would be best if you could figure out examples about why things fell apart so you won't continue to do those things in your next relationship.

The only way you will improve your life is if you figure out where you went wrong in the past. This doesn't just apply to relationships but you can apply it to other parts of your life as well. Think about the ways you have messed up and work for change. Once you have done your own inner work find the best astrologer you feel comfortable with. With astrology world leaders in the past used this knowledge to help bring compromise and resolution between the countries partners.

In an astrology consultation you will find out more about why relationships can be problematic. The astrologer will explain the planets that govern relationships, such as Venus for love, the moon for emotions, mercury for communication, Mars for attraction. In most cases there can be complications with your Venus with the difficult planets such as Saturn or Pluto that are creating havoc in your love life. Your astrology consultation will enlighten you on these issues and you can use that information to embark upon healing and self awareness. This will reveal to you why you can be attracting the wrong people into your life and from there you can choose different.

Being self-aware can help you find a good relationship. You will know what you need and what you can bring to the other person. You know the types of people you should stay away from and the types of people you should look for. Finding a good relationship can help you in your life and allow you to have a better future. It would be worth your time to figure out how to change for the better.

A narcissist is a person who is said to have a lot of admiration for himself or herself and enjoys it deeply when other people admire him or her. The people with such disorders see other people as being inferior to them and usually disregard the feelings of other people around them. A narcissist, however, behind that facade of self-confidence, self-absorbance and superiority, is a person who is easily broken and is vulnerable to any form of criticism, no matter how tiny it may seem.

How can one know when they are dating a narcissist?

There are some easy to tell, signs that warn you and some are listed here:

a.) They talk too much about themselves Narcissists love to portray themselves as being the best of the very best. They dominate conversations, especially so that they can get a chance to describe themselves in huge majestic terms, illustrating how they saved the day in some situations and listing their achievements and their accomplishments. They love to flaunt their material wealth and their life exploits so that they make other people look inferior and portray themselves as superior.

b.) They are charming, but with strings attached Narcissists do not do anything for nothing. They only do something when it matches their own interests and love is no different to them. They are charming people, actually very charming and have often been compared with salespersons and they can catch your heart, but their flattery for someone ends as soon as they have achieved what they wanted. They shower their interests with lots of love and gifts and sweep them off their feet, only to drop them as soon as they are done using them to their advantage.

c.) They break their word often and are not reliable Narcissists are good at making promises. They promise you heaven but cannot deliver it. They do not make any follow-ups to their promises and are therefore not reliable. This can include organizing dates and postponing the last minute, making agreements which they cannot keep and being undependable. If someone you love is inconsistent in the way he or she handles you, you may have in your hand a narcissist who can be there for you one instant and very distant the next minute.

d) They are very impatient and want their way A person who is a narcissist likes to have his way and nobody elses. Narcissists spend a lot of time prodding their spouses and other acquaintances to do things in a certain manner even if they (their partners) are not comfortable with doing things in that manner. They get impatient and can throw a tantrum if they do not have their way or are denied what they want as they feel that they are always right and everyone else is wrong. Their impatience may be as a result of someone simply not answering their texts fast enough to their liking or not picking up calls.

Celebrating the Fourth birthday of a mens group recently, the founder and facilitator spoke with me to reveal what the inspiration was for its creation.

Once a month, in a modest suburban backyard in the modern metropolitan area of Melbourne, a community of men brave the infamous Melbourne weather to meet around an outdoor fire and be involved in the 'Mens Fire Circle'.

Interviewer "So what led to you beginning the Men's Fire Circle?"

"It was after turning 50. It was a fairly momentous milestone and in the days following I noticed myself reviewing life, and one of the subjects I was contemplating was how discontented I felt with the spiritual leadership on offer in this culture, or lack thereof. It appears to be that our spiritual institutions have exhausted all their moral authority, and I noticed myself fantasising about just what my life might be like if I lived in a hunter gatherer society where individuals knew themselves as part of a tribal community ... It was about then that I had this epiphany and I said to myself "You have just turned fifty Dave, that means you're an elder, so exactly what are you going to do about it, complain and be a victim or man up, be a leader and then do something about it."

"That thought truly hit home and so I decided to set up a mens-community based upon the old classical tribal values of Men collecting around fire to converse on men's issues, and the idea for the Mens Fire Circle took form."

Interviewer: "Why did you go for a Men's Circle, why not just a circle for anyone?"

"That's an interesting question. At the time I really felt a clear need to observe tribal cultures for my vision. I really wanted to return to something closer to nature, and it seemed to me that in tribal cultures there was a definite significance placed on initiation events and a realization of both the many different needs, along with particular roles in connection with each of the sexes. I had a hunch that if in their wisdom, leaders of tribes had seen value in males and females assembling according to their specific gender to talk about and also guide each other with the particular trials and tribulations common to their own gender, then I concluded, it would be a good principle for the circle I create to be guided by their leadership also."

Reporter: "To what degree have you noticed the gender exclusive design to work, is it helpful or do you feel the loss of the equilibrium of the feminine?"

"Originally I felt uneasy about this, but paradoxically, what I have found is that it appears much easier for a number of men to get connected with their feminine side in circle if women are absent. I sense there are two aspects at play with this. The first is that, in many cases men need to speak about troubles they are having with their intimate romantic relationships, and doing that solely with their own gender appears to grant them a bit of extra scope to impart openly and also genuinely regarding the way they feel with respect to 'the woman' in their lives. I think they perceive that other men can make sense of their concerns more completely. Maybe it's because we have actually all been a party to the very same cultural conditioning, so we are running our lives from the same expectations.

The 2nd aspect is, when the circle is all males, there are no sexual interferences. There's no competing for the attention of the females, no undertaking to "make it" with the other sex. With any prospective sexual diversions taken out, this seems to free up every person to be a lot more honest."

The Men's Fire Circle meets at 7.30 pm on the fourth Tuesday each month, in Greensborough, which is a suburb of Melbourne, in Victoria, Australia. You can locate the groups website with all the information of upcoming gatherings, and the option of subscribing for email notices of the meetings, click here: http://www.meetup.com/Mens-Fire-Circle-Greensborough-Victoria/